Shadows

Jane R. Perlman 1911-2010
From her Eulegy, June 6, 2010

“My grandmother, Jane, was the most poised, elegant and graceful woman I have ever known. Much will be said of her accomplishments and generosity, but I want to speak of her as the woman and mother she was to our family.

She was fiercely independent and had a “pull yourself by your bootstraps” attitude. She passed on to us a sense of purpose and determination and demonstrated absolute perseverance. She was a quiet force, a gentle woman with an iron will.

She would not be pleased that we would be admiring her and singing her praises- she was humble and modest and would deflect attention from herself to other things. Her quiet power and femininity have inspired all who knew her- especially the women in this family.

She influenced and encouraged my late Aunt Joanie, my mother, Midge, and I to pursue endeavors that would benefit our community and set an example of generosity for our children.

I am so grateful she was in my life and the lives of my children for so long. She will live on in all of us.

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile that she had lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back
or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her
or you can be full of the love that you shared.
Do what she would want: Smile, open your eyes, love and
go on……”

xxoo

K